“I always believed you can love more than one person at a time,” says Sex Coach, Sienna Sinclaire.
Polyamory is everywhere! Or, so it seems. And, surprisingly, it’s not the Zoomers who are paving the way for this emerging trend. It’s Gen X and Millennials. Polyamory is less stigmatized in society now, with more information readily accessible on social media, reality television, and advice columnists, like Dan Savage, who are pro-polyamory.
But, what is polyamory all about… really?
As a follow-up to my Dating Trends Article, SW Newsmagazine decided to chat with sex coach and host of The Naughty Girl Podcast, Sinclaire, about the how’s and why’s of all things poly.
SW News: Why do you think polyamory is gaining popularity right now?
Sienna Sinclaire: I think polyamory is gaining visibility because people are questioning traditional relationship structures instead of automatically accepting them.
Many “normal” relationships fail not because love is missing, but because people change, get bored, or outgrow rigid expectations—and that’s rarely talked about honestly.
I was exploring alternative dynamics like swinging and open relationships over twenty years ago, in my twenties, simply to understand what worked for me when monogamy didn’t. That exploration wasn’t about rebellion—it was about self-awareness. And nothing has to be permanent; you can try things, evolve, and even return to monogamy, if that’s what feels aligned later on.
No matter your relationship status, how you define yourself, or what you’re exploring in life, openness and honesty with the person—or people—you’re dating, is essential. It’s not about being a player or avoiding commitment; it’s about being truthful so no one gets hurt.
SW News: As I mentioned in my last article, throuples have been making the headlines lately. What personality types are often drawn to throuples, and other polyamorous partnerships?
Sienna Sinclaire: From my own experiences—and through years of coaching individuals and couples, teaching classes, and hosting parties—where people feel safe enough to be honest about what they want—I’ve noticed a clear pattern. People drawn to throuples or alternative relationship structures, tend to be highly self-aware, emotionally curious, and comfortable questioning traditional norms.
Often, things simply aren’t working in the way they’ve been taught relationships are “supposed” to work. They’re questioning old models, craving something different, and sometimes seeking excitement or deeper connection. But the most interesting part isn’t the desire itself—it’s permission.
Even when people feel drawn to these dynamics, they often need to see them reflected in others before they feel allowed to explore.
That visibility is where popularity really begins. Seeing these relationships openly discussed gives people the permission they didn’t realize they were waiting for—to try, to question, and to choose something that feels more aligned for them.
SW News: Does jealousy ever come into play in throuples and other polyamorous relationships, and how is it typically managed?
Sienna Sinclaire: Jealousy can absolutely come into play—there’s jealousy in monogamous relationships, so of course it can exist in polyamorous relationships. It really depends on the individuals involved.
Some people, myself included, simply aren’t wired for jealousy. I’ve genuinely never felt it. I can admire someone else’s beauty or presence without comparing myself or feeling threatened—because beauty is subjective. Everyone brings something different into a room, and someone else having qualities I don’t adds to the richness.
For those who do experience jealousy, managing it comes down to self-awareness and complete honesty. Jealousy is information—it shows you where insecurity, fear, or unmet needs might live. In multi-person relationships, those feelings can’t be ignored or glossed over. They have to be talked about openly.
That’s why this relationship style isn’t for everyone. If jealousy is constant or unmanaged, it may not be a healthy fit—and that’s okay. The key is being honest with yourself and with each person involved about what you’re truly looking for, what your limits are, and what you need to feel secure.
Courtesy of Sienna Sinclaire
SW News: What do you see as the main benefits of a polyamorous relationship?
Sienna Sinclaire: I can’t speak for everyone, but from my own experience—even when I was younger and dating multiple people in open relationships—I always believed you can love more than one person at a time, just as you can love more than one parent, sibling, or friend. Expecting one partner to fulfill every emotional, intellectual, and sexual need sets up unrealistic expectations. Dating more than one person allowed me to experience different kinds of connections—one person might meet me in one way, another in a completely different way—and for me, that felt balanced and fulfilling.
That’s often what draws people to throuples or alternative relationship structures.
It’s not about replacing something that’s missing—it’s about allowing room for different kinds of love, connection, and compatibility to coexist, in a way that feels intentional and aligned for the people involved.
SW News: You have a podcast, The Naughty Girl Podcast. What topics do you explore on your show?
Sienna Sinclaire: The Naughty Girl Podcast is an honest, unapologetic show about modern femininity, desire, relationships, and self-expression. It explores sexuality, confidence, power dynamics, and personal growth—always with humor, depth, and zero shame—centering on what it truly means for women to own their desires without filters.
SW News: Last, tell me about the naughty parties you host. What do you do there?
Sienna Sinclaire: Naughty Parties are curated, immersive experiences that celebrate confidence, femininity, and self-expression. They bring together open-minded people for conversation, connection, playful energy, and bold atmospheres—often featuring music, cocktails, performances, and moments that invite guests to step out of their comfort zone in a safe, consensual, and judgment-free space.
You can listen to The Naughty Girl Podcast, here.
